Married Sex
practical, biblically informed answers to your questions about intimacy
Reimagine your love life with Married Sex, a unique, comprehensive guide to sexual intimacy for Christian couples in every season of marriage.
Your marriage can be sexually satisfying and fulfilling, and you can have practical, biblically-informed answers to your questions about sex.
A great sex life is something you make, not something you find. If you feel confused or frustrated about your sex life--or simply wonder, Is there more to it than this?--Married Sex is exactly what you need to make your marriage stronger, in and out of the bedroom.
Including the stories of real-life couples, research results from hundreds of comprehensive surveys, and professional perspective from a bestselling spiritual writer and a licensed counselor, Married Sex will help you understand God’s purpose for marital sexuality, and the wisdom of putting intention and effort into a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Letter from the authors
For more than a decade, I/Gary have been honored to serve God by writing about one of God’s most sacred institutions - marriage. I am passionate about helping couples deepen their relationship with the Lord through their love for each other. For those of us in ministry, we know that intimacy is a hugely important component of a thriving marriage. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I/Debra have worked with hundreds of Christian couples on improving and strengthening their marriages. If there’s one thing I know to be true, it’s that sex is a hugely important component of a thriving marriage, yet many Christians are ill-equipped to handle intimacy issues. That’s why we partnered to write “Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life.”
In writing “Married Sex,” we were committed to addressing both husbands and wives to ensure sex becomes something special, holy and enjoyable to both partners. Additionally, we combined biblical wisdom, neuroscience research, and anecdotes from real married couples to make “Married Sex” unlike anything available.
We admit “Married Sex” is an honest book that addresses issues often shied away from in the Church, but in the few short weeks since the book released on Oct. 5, we’ve already heard from numerous marriage experts, pastors and counselors that the book is an invaluable resource. We are thrilled that couples are experiencing God’s best for their love life. We truly believe this is a book filled with Scriptural truth that can help to build stronger marriages that honor God’s design when used by couples in a healthy, God-honoring relationship built on mutual love and respect.
Our prayer is this book brings couples closer to Christ and one another!
In His service,
Gary Thomas & Debra Fileta
Who Married Sex is for:
Your marriage can be sexually satisfying and fulfilling. Trusted and respected pastor and author Gary Thomas, the writer of bestselling and highly recommended books on Christian marriage and Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor of thousands of clients and couples who struggle with sex in their relationship present practical, biblically-informed answers to your questions about sex.
The importance of an emotional connection with author debra fileta
The Biblical Foundation with author gary thomas
Sample Married Sex Instantly
Reimagine your love life with Married Sex, a unique, comprehensive guide to sexual intimacy for Christian couples in every season of marriage.
This book is unlike anything available and combines biblical wisdom, neuroscience research, and anecdotes from real married couples to help both husbands and wives experience sex as special, holy and enjoyable. Gary and Debra hold nothing back on a subject that is often misunderstood in culture and rarely discussed in the Church. The book takes an honest and balanced look at God’s design for sex within a healthy marriage and offers practical tips to take ownership in the process of making love to your spouse.
Together, Gary and Debra add depth and nuance to the issue, addressing both a husband and wife’s perspective and needs while also recognizing every couple is different. While sex is a sensitive topic, it is one of God’s greatest gifts. We hope you find this excerpt enlightening and valuable as you grow together with your spouse in your marriage!
Married Sex will help you discover:
Psychology, theology, research, story, and let's-get-started ideas combine to make Married Sex a resource for you and your spouse like no other book you've read before. Discover practical, biblically informed answers to your questions about intimacy as you find more satisfaction in your marriage than ever.
Endorsements & Reader Reviews
Chrystal Evans Hurst, bestselling author and speaker
When you combine the wealth of knowledge that both Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas have about people, love, and relationships, you get this page-turner. Debra and Gary have skillfully provided a holistic guide to developing and maintaining a vibrant and satisfying sex life throughout the course of your marriage.
Levi and Jennie Lusko, lead pastors of Fresh Life Church and bestselling authors
If the enemy can’t take out your marriage on the battlefield, he’ll do it in the bedroom. If you are struggling to see that God’s plan for your sex life doesn’t only involve pleasure but power, this book will hand you the keys to unleash God’s rich blessing and strength on your marriage. Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas have a special way of combining science and truth in a powerful way, and this book will help you become stronger and bring sexy back to your marriage.
It’s time for Christian couples to renormalize and reclaim God’s vision for married sex. This book shines the bright light of God’s truth into one of the most dimly lit and underexplored areas of Christian marriage. It’s bound to be a treasure trove of wisdom and hope for all who read it!
— Ryan and Selena Frederick, founders of Fierce Families and authors of See-Through Marriage
When it comes to sex within marriage, the church has been awkward at best or silent at worst around the topic. That’s why I’m thankful for the work of Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta to help married couples discover the good gifts God has given us through sexual intimacy. Married Sex is a practical guide for all married couples who want to know the sexual life God has created for you in every stage of your married life.
— Kyle Idleman, bestselling author of Not a Fan and One at a Time
Dave and Ann Wilson, authors of Vertical Marriage and cohosts of Family Life Today
Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta will help your marriage get pretty hot and your bedroom even hotter. This is one of the most honest and descriptive books on married sex we’ve ever read. We honestly couldn’t put it down. It will give you God’s heart on married sex and get your heart pumping all at the same time! If you want to know what God dreamed for married sex, you just found it.
Married Sex is a masterpiece, and it’s one of the most practical, biblical, and helpful books on sex ever written. Apply its teachings into your own marriage, and your sex life (and many other aspects of your marriage) will see instant improvements.
— Dave and Ashley Willis, authors of The Naked Marriage and hosts of The Naked Marriage podcast
Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta have created a positive, balanced, and comprehensive resource that will guide you through the joys and challenges of sexual intimacy. Reading this book together and referring to it throughout your marriage will give you hope, encouragement, and practical help.
— Juli Slattery, cofounder of Authentic Intimacy, author of Rethinking Sexuality
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Married Sex
practical, biblically informed answers to your questions about intimacy
Reimagine your love life with Married Sex, a unique, comprehensive guide to sexual intimacy for Christian couples in every season of marriage.
Letter From the Authors
For more than a decade, I/Gary have been honored to serve God by writing about one of God’s most sacred institutions - marriage. I am passionate about helping couples deepen their relationship with the Lord through their love for each other. For those of us in ministry, we know that intimacy is a hugely important component of a thriving marriage. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I/Debra have worked with hundreds of Christian couples on improving and strengthening their marriages. If there’s one thing I know to be true, it’s that sex is a hugely important component of a thriving marriage, yet many Christians are ill-equipped to handle intimacy issues. That’s why we partnered to write “Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life.”
In writing “Married Sex,” we were committed to addressing both husbands and wives to ensure sex becomes something special, holy and enjoyable to both partners. Additionally, we combined biblical wisdom, neuroscience research, and anecdotes from real married couples to make “Married Sex” unlike anything available.
We admit “Married Sex” is an honest book that addresses issues often shied away from in the Church, but in the few short weeks since the book released on Oct. 5, we’ve already heard from numerous marriage experts, pastors and counselors that the book is an invaluable resource. We are thrilled that couples are experiencing God’s best for their love life. We truly believe this is a book filled with Scriptural truth that can help to build stronger marriages that honor God’s design when used by couples in a healthy, God-honoring relationship built on mutual love and respect.
Our prayer is this book brings couples closer to Christ and one another!
In His service,
Gary Thomas & Debra Fileta
Your marriage can be sexually satisfying and fulfilling, and you can have practical, biblically-informed answers to your questions about sex.
A great sex life is something you make, not something you find. If you feel confused or frustrated about your sex life--or simply wonder, Is there more to it than this?--Married Sex is exactly what you need to make your marriage stronger, in and out of the bedroom.
Including the stories of real-life couples, research results from hundreds of comprehensive surveys, and professional perspective from a bestselling spiritual writer and a licensed counselor, Married Sex will help you understand God’s purpose for marital sexuality, and the wisdom of putting intention and effort into a fulfilling sexual relationship.
The importance of an emotional connection with author debra fileta
the biblical foundation with author gary thomas
Sample Married Sex Instantly
This book is unlike anything available and combines biblical wisdom, neuroscience research, and anecdotes from real married couples to help both husbands and wives experience sex as special, holy and enjoyable. Gary and Debra hold nothing back on a subject that is often misunderstood in culture and rarely discussed in the Church. The book takes an honest and balanced look at God’s design for sex within a healthy marriage and offers practical tips to take ownership in the process of making love to your spouse.
Together, Gary and Debra add depth and nuance to the issue, addressing both a husband and wife’s perspective and needs while also recognizing every couple is different. While sex is a sensitive topic, it is one of God’s greatest gifts. We hope you find this excerpt enlightening and valuable as you grow together with your spouse in your marriage!
Married Sex was written for:
Your marriage can be sexually satisfying and fulfilling. Trusted and respected pastor and author Gary Thomas, the writer of bestselling and highly recommended books on Christian marriage and Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor of thousands of clients and couples who struggle with sex in their relationship present practical, biblically-informed answers to your questions about sex.
Married Sex will help you discover:
Psychology, theology, research, story, and let's-get-started ideas combine to make Married Sex a resource for you and your spouse like no other book you've read before. Discover practical, biblically informed answers to your questions about intimacy as you find more satisfaction in your marriage than ever.
Endorsements & Reader Reviews
Chrystal Evans Hurst
Bestselling author and speaker
When you combine the wealth of knowledge that both Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas have about people, love, and relationships, you get this page-turner. Debra and Gary have skillfully provided a holistic guide to developing and maintaining a vibrant and satisfying sex life throughout the course of your marriage.
Levi and Jennie Lusko
Lead pastors of Fresh Life Church and bestselling authors
If the enemy can’t take out your marriage on the battlefield, he’ll do it in the bedroom. If you are struggling to see that God’s plan for your sex life doesn’t only involve pleasure but power, this book will hand you the keys to unleash God’s rich blessing and strength on your marriage. Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas have a special way of combining science and truth in a powerful way, and this book will help you become stronger and bring sexy back to your marriage.
Ryan and Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Families and authors of See-Through Marriage
It’s time for Christian couples to renormalize and reclaim God’s vision for married sex. This book shines the bright light of God’s truth into one of the most dimly lit and underexplored areas of Christian marriage. It’s bound to be a treasure trove of wisdom and hope for all who read it!
Kyle Idleman
Bestselling author of Not a Fan and One at a Time
When it comes to sex within marriage, the church has been awkward at best or silent at worst around the topic. That’s why I’m thankful for the work of Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta to help married couples discover the good gifts God has given us through sexual intimacy. Married Sex is a practical guide for all married couples who want to know the sexual life God has created for you in every stage of your married life.
Dave and Ann Wilson
Authors of Vertical Marriage and cohosts of Family Life Today
Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta will help your marriage get pretty hot and your bedroom even hotter. This is one of the most honest and descriptive books on married sex we’ve ever read. We honestly couldn’t put it down. It will give you God’s heart on married sex and get your heart pumping all at the same time! If you want to know what God dreamed for married sex, you just found it.
Order Now From Your Trusted Bookseller
